TW/CW: sexual assault

Dear Readers,

 

This is Jae, writing in place of Eren.  Already, this isn’t normal, which should forewarn you, if the trigger/content warning up top did not.

 

Over the weekend and into the beginning of the week, we took into our house a Hurricane Irma evacuee—a friend we’ve known for years, albeit only online due to distance. We’ve shared a lot with this person, including addresses, pictures, apartment layouts, life events—and had similar sharing in return. We were going to attend this person’s wedding at one point. This person was not a stranger to us except in physical presence.

 

Sadly, this person chose to take advantage of our kindness. Said person sexually assaulted Eren in our home, multiple times over the course of their stay. Eren felt she could not say anything for fear of making things worse. This is a typical trauma response. I did not find out that this had happened until said person had left our home on their way back to Florida. When I found out, I took steps to ensure Eren’s safety as best as possible.

 

Eren is physically as well as she can be—bruised, but otherwise unhurt. We are not filing police charges unless said person attempts to make contact in any way again, which we have made clear to this person. The police in our state are horrendous to victims of any kind, but especially to those of marginalized classes—and since Eren is transgender, we have little faith they would treat her with any kind of dignity or true help. We have reason to believe that they might harm her, based on how they have treated other trans persons in our city.

 

Emotionally, Eren is not well, which is of course to be expected. She could use outpourings of love and kindness. She is currently unable to post, which she regrets a lot, but also she cares about all of you a great deal and wanted to let you know why she is not posting.

 

Things that are helpful include letting her know how much you care, that this is horrible, that this person did a terrible thing/is a terrible person, etc. Things that are not helpful include telling her what she should have done, asking her where she was, or any other victim-blaming type of thing (and if you need a list of those, please feel free to google ‘victim blaming’).

 

Thank you for your time and consideration in reading this, and for taking care in how you speak with Eren about this.

 

With much appreciation for all of you,

Jae

 

P.S. A helpful article for talking with people who have been affected by a big, terrible thing: http://articles.latimes.com/2013/apr/07/opinion/la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407

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17 responses to TW/CW: sexual assault


  1. Hi Eren.

    I’m not sure if this is where I should be saying this, but I just wanted to say that I’m a huge fan of your writing, and that I’m terribly sorry what happened to you. You are an awesome person, and what you’ve done with your life is nothing short of inspirational.

    Its shitty that you have to deal with this on top of all the other shit in your life, and I’m sorry. I wish there was something I could do to help you out. All I can say, however, is this –

    You deserve the best in your life, and I can only hope that it will find its way to you. Bright blessings upon you.

    Micha

  2. I wish I could express how much reading this story brightens my day with every chapter. I don’t know you, and you don’t know me, so I won’t try to go into long texts/speeches, but I just want you to know that. You are a great author, Eren. That I know. For that, and the spark of delight you’ve brought in my life with your writing, I thank you. You inspire me and you are stronger than this. I hope you get better soon.

    And don’t worry about posting. We’ll get by. Just take care of yourself.

  3. Right Ive been reading your stories for along time and never felt the need to comment on anything as your work is awesome but I want you to know that both you and your story is amazing. Don’t ever give up on what you enjoy doing and I hope that you feel better over the next few days surrounded by people who love and care about you.

  4. Laberlampe

    You have the strength to get through this and people at your side to help you. I can see it in your work and dedication to it. Bless you and may you soon smile again.

    P.S.: Do not worry about posting, i think your health and happiness are more important to us .

  5. ryan

    I’m sorry such a horrific thing happened to you in your own home, this story brings many smiles to my face each time a chapter is released. You’ll be in your readers thoughts and I hope the strength that we can see in you gets you through this

  6. fionag11

    What a horrible experience and betrayal in the sanctity of your home. Best wishes dear Eren.

  7. Lightdefender

    That’s awful. I’m sorry that happened to you. I’m sorry that happens to anyone.

    Take whatever time you need, and when you’re able to write again, we’ll be here.

  8. SpongeeJumper

    My heart goes out to you Eren, take care of yourself, and when you’re ready to post again, whether a chapter or a journal, I’ll be here to listen.

  9. Eduardo

    I’ve read this in the morning. During the day thought a lot on what to write here and …
    Even someone used to news of violence and with the general situation of leaving your home knowing that you may never come back that is typical of Brasil sometimes can get surprised by what people can do to those that help them.
    Unfortunately, for twenty persons that you help there is one that … you wonder how this person can have friends, live a life in society and pretend to be a sentient being.
    This said, I hope that he or she is stopped somehow from doing more damage to the innocent of this world and that you can find some peace in knowing that you are not to blame in this.
    Your fiction brightens the day of many people that you will never meet and I hope that this also will serve as a minor consolation in the dark days to come.

  10. Really really sorry to hear this happened hun. It’s really sad to think a trusted friend did this but please confide in Jae and do lots of things you love with him. I hope to hear/see you around. Do what ever feels comfy and Jae, please don’t leave her alone, as a fellow TG girl alone is the last thing I’d want right now even if the companionship is in silence. Best wishes to you both

  11. Arukorstza

    Well that absolutely sucks to all the highest degrees. I have no words to express how horrified I am that one my favorite author had something like this happen to them. All I can do is hope that she is getting any help she might need.

    Best regards.

  12. I’m so terribly sorry to hear this. Erin you seem like an awesome person, and you deserve so much better. My heart goes out to you. We will be here when you return. I wish that anything I could say would make it even the tiniest bit better, but not as much as I wish you never had to have it happen in the first place. Sending all my heart from Australia.
    Ben

  13. Renee

    Hey Eren,

    I really don’t know what to say. I’m so sorry and furious on your behalf, and I guess I just want you to know that someone out there sees you and values you and knows that this is not okay and that you absolutely deserve better. This isn’t something that can be undone or taken away from you, but I hope that you can… I guess, to be cheezy and use your own words, build a geode of essence around it, so the damage can take the time and space it needs to heal. I know you can! You are strong and a survivor!

    Meanwhile, I thought some good books might help you feel better, since MNML always helps me, so I sent you the first couple off of your wishlist. I know you already have a fantastic support network, but count me in as another person who is happy to hear from you, chat with you, and reassure you if you want to reach out.

    Thank you for everything. You are wonderful, and you help people more than you know.

  14. Hey Erin, just want to say that me and all your fans support you, you are an amazing writer and your series is full of depth and I can see how much effort you put in. I know you will get through this and make a full recovery, so don’t worry about pushing yourself to write chapters, your health is most important here,

  15. I’m at a loss for words. I’m sorry that had to happen :/

    You know where to reach me if you need another voice.

  16. Just want to say how much I love your work and how devastated I am by this news. You deserve so much better Eren, I wish for you to regain a feeling of safety and healing.

  17. Seieran

    I love your work and I hope you get the support you need.

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